The purpose of a relationship is to support each other, through times of ups and downs … so in a way, I try my best to inspire myself, so that I can be a pillar to my love … an inspiring passage …
Key concepts taken from the book The Magic of Thinking BIG by David J. Schwartz, PhD.
1. A person is a product of his own thoughts. Believe Big and grow big.
2. The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief.
3. Your training is self-administered. There will be no one standing over your shoulder telling you what to do and how to do it.
4. Study the lives of successful people and you’ll discover this: all the excuses made by the mediocre fellow could be but aren’t made by the successful person.
5. Refuse to talk about your health. The more you talk about an ailment, even the common cold, the worse it seems to get. Talking about bad health is like putting fertilizer on weeds. Besides, talking about your health is a bad habit. It bores people.
6. Einstein taught us a big lesson. He felt it was more important to use your mind to think than to use it as a warehouse for facts.
7. There is within each of a desire to be right, think right, and act right. When we go against that desire we put a cancer in our conscience. The cancer grows and grows by eating away at our confidence. Avoid doing anything that will cause you to ask yourself, “Will I get caught? Will they find out? Will I get away with it?”
8. A big smile gives you confidence. A big smile beats fear, rolls away worry, defeats despondency.
9. Make a supreme effort to put only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Don’t let negative, self-deprecatory thoughts grow into mental monsters. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant events or situations.
10. Practice doing what your conscience tells you is right. This prevents a poisonous guilt complex from developing. Doing what’s right is a very practical rule for success.
11. Make everything about you say, “I’m confident, really confident. “Practice these little techniques in your day to day activities. . Be a “front-seater. ” . Make eye contact. . Walk 25 percent faster. . Speak up. . Smile big.
12. Where success is concerned, people are not measured in inches, or pounds, or college degrees, or family background; they are measured by the size of their thinking. How big do we think determines the size of our accomplishments.
13. The only thing that counts about one’s vocabulary, is the effect his words and phrases have on his own and others thinking.
14. Practice adding value to things. Ask, “What can I do to make myself more valuable today?”
15. The real test of a speaker is not did he stand straight or did he make any mistakes in grammar, but rather did the audience get the points he wanted to put across.
16. The big thinkers approach to work is looking for more ways and things to do, especially helping others; whereas the petty thinkers approach is looking for ways to avoid work.
17. The big thinkers approach to companionship is surrounding himself with persons with large, progressive ideas; whereas the petty thinkers approach is to surround himself with petty thinkers.
18. Creative thinking is simply finding new, improved ways to do anything. When you believe, your mind finds ways to do.
19. Believe it can be done. Eliminate the word impossible from your thinking and speaking vocabularies. Impossible is a failure word.
20. “Average” people have always resented progress.
21. Become receptive to ideas. Welcome new ideas. Destroy those thought repellants: “Won’t work,” “Can’t be done,” “It’s useless,” and “It’s stupid.”
22. Be an experimental person. Expose yourself to new restaurants, new books, new theaters, new friends; take a different route to work some day, take a different vacation this year, do something new and different this week-end.
23. Be progressive, not regressive. Not, “That’s the way we did it where I used to work so we ought to do it that way here” but “ How can we do it better than we did where I used to work?”
24.“How can I improve the quality of my performance? How can I do better?” Successful people know this and they are always searching for a better way. A successful person doesn’t ask, “Can I do it better?” He knows he can. So he phrases the question: “How can I do it better?”
25. It isn’t so much what you know, it’s when you start that matters. It’s what you learn and put to use after you open your doors that counts most. “How can I increase my personal efficiency?”
26. Capacity is a state of mind. How much we can do depends on how much we think we can do. When you really believe you can do more, your mind thinks creatively and shows you the way.
27. Figure out how you can increase your personal efficiency. I sat down got a pencil and started writing down every idea I could think of. Capacity is indeed a state of mind.
28. Top-level leaders in all walks of life spend much more time requesting advice than they do in giving it. Before a top man makes a decision, he asks, “How do you feel about it?” “What do you recommend?” “What would you do under these circumstances?” “How does this sound to you?”
29. A leader is a decision-making human machine. Now, to manufacturer anything, you’ve got to have raw material. In reaching creative decisions, the raw materials are the ideas and suggestions of others.
30. Don’t let ideas escape. Write them down. Everyday lots of good ideas are born only to die quickly because they aren’t nailed to paper.
31. Don’t let tradition paralyze your mind. Be receptive to new ideas.
32. Ask yourself daily, “How can I do better?” There is no limit to self-improvement.
33. Ask yourself, “How can I do more?” Capacity is a state of mind. Asking yourself this question puts your mind to work to find intelligent short-cuts.
34. Remember: Big people monopolize the listening; small people monopolize the talking.
35. Stretch your mind. Get stimulated. Associate with people who can help you think of new ideas, new ways of doing things.
36. Others see in us what we see in ourselves. We receive the kind of treatment we think we deserve.
37. Use clothing as a tool to lift your spirits, build confidence. A soldier feels and thinks like a soldier when he is in uniform. A woman feels more like going to a party when she is dressed for a party.
38. Think your work is important. There’s a story often told about the job attitudes of three bricklayers. It’s a classic, so let’s go over it again.When asked, “What are you doing?” the first bricklayer replied, “Laying brick.” The second answered, “Making $9.30 an hour.” And the third said, “Me? Why I am building the world’s greatest cathedral.”
Now the story doesn’t tell us what happened to these bricklayers in later years, but what do you think happened?
Chances are that the first two bricklayers remained just that: bricklayers. They lacked vision. They lacked job respect. There was nothing behind them to propel them forward to greater success.
But you can wager every cent you have the bricklayer who visualized himself as building a great cathedral did not remain a bricklayer. Perhaps he became foreman, or perhaps a contractor, or possibly an architect. He moved forward and upward. Why? Because thinking does make it so. Bricklayer number 3 was tuned to thought channels that pointed the way to self-development in his work.
39. Like your appearance, the way you think toward your work says things about you to your superiors, associates, and subordinates.
40. A person who thinks his job is important receives mental signals on how to do his job better; and a better job means more promotions, more money, more prestige, more happiness.
41. You are judged by the company you keep. Fellow workers are not all alike. Some are negative others are positive.
42. Grow the you-are-important attitude. Everyone has a natural desire to feel he is “somebody.” The desire to be important is man’s strongest, most compelling non-biological hunger.
43. Practice appreciation because a person craves praise. He wants to be assured he is doing a good job and that he is important.
44. Don’t hog glory, Invest it instead.
45. Results come in proportion to enthusiasm invested. Dig into it deeper. When you find yourself disinterested in something, dig in and learn more about it. This sets off enthusiasm.
46. Show appreciation at every opportunity. Success depends on the support of other people.
47. Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you.
48. Give spiritual strength to people, and they will give genuine affection to you.
49. A wise man will be Master of His Mind; A Fool will be Its Slave.
